That is a very powerful sentence. Think of the energy behind it. It really doesn’t matter what should or shouldn’t BE. All we have is what IS. That’s it. Focusing on how things should or shouldn’t be, just keeps things the way they are.
If you find yourself saying should or shouldn’t, maybe you need to take a good look at where you are, right now. What is causing you to say those words? Is it something that you have control over? Or not?
Chances are, you can change things, but you can never change them by saying they shouldn’t exist. You need to be in your moment, look at your moment, see everything that brought you here. If need be, release it. Or maybe it is just something you need to acknowledge. Sometimes you may find it easier to say it shouldn’t be a certain way, rather than actually seeing it how it is and doing something about it.
Sometimes you just need to ride it out, and do things differently next time. Some times you need to do things differently today. Sometimes it may be something you have no control over right at the moment (a law, or the economy perhaps). Sometimes it is something you can control right now.
Your focus should always be on you. What can you do. With the smaller stuff it’s easy. With the bigger stuff it might be a little harder, but its likely not impossible.
For some it is much easier to say should or shouldn’t rather than looking at things differently. I should have more money. Really? Should you? Then why don’t you? What have you done about it? Do you want money for nothing? Do you want money for work? Do you accept what you have created for yourself? Do you have debt to pay off? Why should you have more money? Look at yourself, your life, your responsibility in what you have created. Rather than use the energy zapper “should”, why don’t you take a good look at your present moment and see what you can do ~ right now, for yourself to create more money?
I shouldn’t be stuck living where I am living. Here’s another common one. Why are you stuck there? If you be in your moment and trust your moment, you will likely find that you aren’t stuck. It is your mind telling you that you are afraid to move. If you live with another person, you may say “I can’t afford to move”. Be in your moment. Is that really true? Or are you just afraid to change what you have now. If it is related to where you can afford to live, what can you do differently.
Things always start with a thought. If you are looking for an easy way out, or are looking at the way things “should, or shouldn’t be” chances are it will elude you. You need to look at what you have right now and use your imagination and your ability to create to find your own way out. Not just use those words as an excuse to stay where you are.
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You are so right!
Do you think that when people use the word “should” in a sentence it is reflecting a belief they have that is not actually theirs?
For example, when you are telling someone they “should” do something, you are projecting a belief you have onto them. Alternatively, if someone is saying I “should” do this or that, they are taking on a belief of another person.
For me, when I hear this word in a sentence, it’s like a trigger for me to step back and think, is this my belief or the belief of someone else. I always try to stop and think about it.
Yes, I agree that often that is the case. Well put Drea.