Creating and Relationships

You create your own stuff…all of it.

I once had a client tell me, “you told me I would not be happy for another 8 years”. I said, “What?!?” I would never say that to anyone, ever.

We create our own happiness.

After asking the client to elaborate on what it was I told her, she said “you told me I would not be in a nice comfortable relationship until I felt better, and that in about 8 years time I would be in a very happy place and co-habitating with the love of my life”.

Well, I can tell you, one of the reasons why this client is going to take so long to find a happy relationship is that she thinks that she cannot be happy without one. You have to be in a good space yourself before you can find a truly decent partnership. No healthy, well adjusted individual wants to get into a relationship with someone who thinks that a relationship is the only thing that can make them happy.

What a load to put onto someone. I am unhappy now, so please come into my life and fix all my problems and make me happy. Every thing you do, and every move you make has to be done with the express purpose and intent to make me happy. That is a pretty tall order, even for a wonderful, loving human being.

Think about that for a minute. Here you are, going through your life, and thinking that you are miserable. If only you had someone to share your life (your misery), with, you would be happy. That is an oxymoron if I ever heard one.

Would it not be easier to just find yourself a happy place and be (mostly) happy on a daily basis, and have a happy, well adjusted individual find their way into your life? I have had clients tell me that if the person they are asking about is not the one, then “I give up, I will never be happy”. This is the decision they have made for themselves.

Anything I see can be changed – ANYTHING. Knowledge is power, and if you have been given a message from Spirit, you have been given additional knowledge. You can take that knowledge and act on it, or do nothing. Your actions can be positive (coming from a high vibration) or they can be negative (coming from a dense energy vibration).

You can make any choice you want. You can choose to say “I will never be happy”, or “I won’t be happy for X amount of years”, or you can chose to say, maybe I should change something about my present attitude, outlook and circumstances, and so I can find someone to share my life with sooner”.

No matter which you choose you will be creating your own reality.

You can make the choice to do some healing work, see what might be keeping you from having the relationship you want. You can look at where you are at right now. You can look at where you are headed. You can then consciously change some of your decisions and the daily things you do and change your future. Period.

Some of you who are not happy with what Spirit has said about you finding a good relationship are in that spot not because of what you are trying to find, but because of what you are not willing to give up.

You are not willing to give up a man (or woman), who is not available to join you in a positive experience (they are married to someone else, abusive to you, abuse drugs/alcohol, the list of unavailable reasons is long) or, you are not willing to give up your baggage from past experiences, or you are not willing to give up on your own need for misery (or negative thinking), or your belief that you cannot be happy without someone else. You will not give up on the mindset that you are an incomplete person and will not be happy under any circumstances unless you are in a relationship. To be happy with someone else, you must be comfortable with yourself.

Nothing that I, or any other psychic tells you is ‘set in stone’. I know beyond any doubt that we have choices while here on earth and our day to day choices create our reality. If you are told from me, or any other psychic, that a relationship is a while off yet, perhaps the best question to ask yourself is: “How can I be happy in the meantime, and perhaps attract a positive experience and/or relationship into my life sooner”. It really can be that easy.

With love, as always, Tamara