Don't Take it Personally

Most of us have a tendency to take life way too personally.  It doesn’t matter what the situation is. 

If you want to feel better, you need to expand your perspective to include other things and people.  If you walk around thinking that everything that goes on around you, is always directly related to how someone feels about you, you can easily lose your peace of mind. 

Next time you encounter something or someone that irks you try and look at it differently. Use this as just a simple way to assist you in not taking things personally, and playing with changing your perspective.

If someone is serving you in some way and they are less than pleasant, rather than being angry, try and make up some scenarios in your head that could explain their behaviour.

They are really not feeling well physically, but have a family to feed so they cannot afford to take time off work.

They are an empath and the last person they served was really miserable and mean to them.

Their landlord called them this morning telling them that they had to move.

You are driving in your car and someone cuts you off or speeds past you.

They have a sick child to pick up from daycare and take to the doctor.

They just got a phone call telling them their parent is in the hospital.

They are emotionally in a really bad place, and are completely unaware of how their behavoiur is affecting those around them.

Your boss is a total bear when you walk into work.

Their boss changed a deadline and they have a project due tomorrow instead of next week.

They had a client that raked them over the coals and threatened to leave the company.

They just did some budget projections and its not looking good for the future of the company.

These things are NOT meant to be excuses for bad behavoiur. I am NOT saying that it is okay that the people you come across are acting the way they are towards you. What I AM saying, is that it happens.

You do not need to take things personally, usually what someone else is saying or doing has very little to do with you. Just as you are often wrapped up in your own life, so are they. When you are experiencing one of the above, and you inadvertently take it out on others, wouldn’t you feel better knowing that they weren’t taking in personally.

Remember, these things rarely have anything to do with YOU.