Most Psychic’s are Empaths
Most people are familiar with the word empathy, however, there are many souls on earth who take empathy to a whole new level – these people are actual Empaths. Some of my clients are empaths and don’t even know it.
What is an empath?
An empath is someone who feels what other people feel. They don’t just feel for someone, they actually feel other people’s feelings and energy as if they were their own. Their energetic boundaries are not set and they take on all kinds of energies.
When interacting with people you actually connect with their Aura and can feel what they are feeling. It is a psychic gift, and many empaths do well working with people because of their ability to feel.
This can be a wonderful gift, but if you do not know how to turn it off it can be a curse. Some empaths are told “you are too sensitive”, or “why are you worried about that?”.
Being an Empath that does not know how to turn it off or control it can tire you out, make you think you are sick, or have you feeling like you are so moody you must be crazy.
Signs you are an Empath
- We all have times when we walk into a space and feel an energy of the place or the people in it. If you are an empath, you feel the energy more deeply. If the energy in a place is sad, you may almost feel like bursting into tears. You pick up on the energy and it feels like it is your feelings but its not.
- You are going about your day and everything is fine and you are quite happy with life. Your phone rings and it is a friend that is unhappy. You talk to your friend for a few minutes, and then for the rest of the day, you find you are unhappy too. You don’t just find yourself “being there” for your friend, you actually take on the mood and feelings of your friend.
- You are around someone who is sick, and you start to feel a little sick yourself. You may not get 100% of their illness, you just find that when you are around someone who is sick, you don’t feel totally healthy. Or you get unexplained aches and pains around certain people.
- Finding yourself in the role of counsellor or confidant much of the time. Having people dump their energies onto you. They feel better, you feel drained.
- You feel responsible for other people’s feelings. Doing things to make them feel better, even if its bad for you.
- You sometimes feel what the world is feeling. Watching the news can really get you depressed.
- You find that you often need to just be alone, away from other people.
- You put your own needs last.
- If you are around someone who is worried about money, you begin to worry about money, even if your own financial situation is fine and you can’t logically think of a reason to be worried. (this could be about any subject, relationships, kids, home ~ anything).
How to get your empathic abilities under control
The first step is to realize that you are an empath. When you take on someone else’s feelings, you feel it as if it is yours. If you don’t know you are an empath, you probably just wonder why you felt so good a minute ago and now you feel badly, or vice versa.
- First you need to come to the realization that you are an empath. If you know what it is and what you are, you empower yourself to now take some action.
- You need to centre your energy and bring it back to yourself. Here is an article for Centering, Grounding and Protecting Your Energy.
- Be aware of what you are feeling and when. Keep a journal of your feelings. You may find that certain people or places cause you to feel a certain way. A way that is not your ‘normal’ feeling place.
- Bring your energy back to yourself. You can close your eyes and imagine your Aura. Focus on your heart centre and imagine your aura as an egg shape around yourself (a few feet out from your body). Set the intention that all your energy that you have given away is coming back to you.
- In your mind’s eye look at your aura and if there are any open spaces see them filling back up with your energy.
- Look and see if there are any energy cords attached to you and remove them (link to how to do this). Sometimes when we interact with someone we can attach cords of energy to them, or they attach them to us. Empaths are especially prone to getting energy cords attached to them because they give and receive energy so fully.
Once you have taken the above steps you are well on your way to controlling your empathy. When you find yourself feeling someone else’s energy, just ground your energy, pull your own energy back to yourself and seal up your aura (in your minds eye).
Awareness is key here. If you aren’t aware of what you are doing energetically you cannot control it.
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This is an interesting post Tamara. It’s very informative for people who are new to this concept, One of the things I think you are alluding to in this post but didn’t say so in so many words is that anyone can be an empath, am I right?
Which is what I feel to be true we all have the capacity to be an Empath but most people scope of consciousness is very narrow. Most of us walk around a Like a horse with blinders on; in an emotional sense. NLP teaches us that we can all feel and even think just like anyone else if we can establish “rapport” and By rapport I don’t mean that we just enjoy a few laughs together, But people can actually synch up their minds, thought patterns and emotional patterns to the point where you can feel another persons emotions and appear to read their mind. It’s very cool to see.
Yes Rich, anyone can be an empath. It is cool to see for sure, but we also need to be able to disconnect from the energy of others when needed.
Some of us are empath’s to the point that it can affect our lives in a big way. Many don’t even realize that they are an empath. It can be debilitating to take on the energy of other people when you don’t know you are doing it.
It can make you feel like you are moody or crazy, and make you doubt your mental stability in life.
As an empath, I sometimes find that if I am not mindful and aware, I will actually ‘take on’ parts of a client’s personality, health issues, or worries hours before they even physically show up. I truly feel it, as if it is something in my own life I am worried about, even if it makes no logical sense that I should be worried.
For example, if a client is coming to see me and they are worried about money, I might find myself obsessively looking at my bank account statements feeling that something is wrong with my finances. I logically KNOW that everything is fine, but I cannot help but FEEL as if something is amiss.
If I practice awareness, I can realize that logically what I am feeling does not make sense and I can use some of the tools in this post to bring my energy back to myself and disconnect from the client’s energy until they are sitting with me.
Sometimes if a client is coming in that has a particular health problem I may feel their illness ahead of time in some way. I may actually have physical symptoms of THEIR illness. I may wonder what is wrong with me and my body. It sometimes is not until the client shows up that I realize that physically, I am fine, I was just picking up on my client’s energy (all symptoms in my own body disappear once I meet with or talk to the client). I often don’t even know it was the client’s energy until they are sitting in front of me. This one can be a little harder to bring into the realms of “logic” because when you are actually feeling physically ill, or if you have a pain somewhere, it’s hard to say to yourself “oh, I shouldn’t feel this way, the pain/symptom belongs to someone else”.
For some of us it goes beyond the ‘ability to empathize’, it is actually something that energetically can transform our thoughts, feelings, and physical bodies. It can almost ‘turn us into someone else’ if we are not careful.
Thanks for this post! I can totally relate to the post and what you posted in your comments. 🙂
As an empath, I understand what you are talking about…especially when it comes to feeling the energy before the client gets here and how it can really feel like my own energy sometimes.
I am always checking in with myself and asking “Is this mine?” For me, it is an awareness check and it also helps to release the energy if it isn’t mine.
Thanks for the tips on replenishing and releasing energy. Will be sharing this post on Facebook!! 🙂
Great post. For me personally, what I have found with my empathic abilities is that when I do coaching/consulting with clients and I connect to their energy and passion for a particular thing, I can actually feel their passion for that thing as if its my own. In the past that has tripped me up a bit as I didn’t realize I was getting excited about something, not because it’s my excitement, but because they are excited about it.
For example, if I was doing coaching with a client who is really passionate about painting, I would finish my session with them and for a few hours afterwards I would find myself thinking that maybe I should take up painting! 🙂
Once I became aware that this is what is happening I always try to ask myself “is this my excitement” when I get excited about something new, especially if it shows up in my life after talking with someone else. 🙂
This is great Tamara, thanks for sharing this whole concept of being an empath and how to control it. I am definitely one to get caught up in other people’s feelings as my own and taking on their energies. This is the case with most of my close relationships, especially those with family. I agree that being aware of this is an important first step to controlling it, and then taking steps to maintain and build my own energy, while letting go of others. I’m excited to work on the steps you have outlined to gain control over my empathy! 🙂
Thank you Tamara for bringing the focus back to ‘me’. I am definitely an empath and I can definitely feel it with some friends with certain subjects, And as much as I try and steer the conversation positively or in a solution oriented way, they may wallow in talking about it, hence affect me. I feel drained especially if I have been around high energy people and then talk to someone low-energy. Off the back of your advice its time I centered myself and cut off any negative cords.
I hear what you are saying and I understand what I NEED to do. But I always find that when I’m so caught up in everyone’s emotions, I forget to protect myself. Do you have any tips to remember in the moment that these feelings are not your own? I am so drained all the time. In fact I have to show up at a big birthday party tonight and I am already getting anxiety about being around all of those people and feeling completely lost inside myself. Lost in the buzz. I really need to learn.
Hi Stephanie,
The most important thing you can do is practice awareness. The more you practice being aware of your thoughts, feelings and actions in any given moment, the more you will be able to notice changes that may not belong to you.
So many of us get caught on “auto-pilot”, just going through the motions in our day, and when we do that we leave ourselves open to picking up whatever energy is there.
The biggest thing is practice, practice, practice. You could try leaving yourself notes around the house, or on your phone, just saying “Practice Awareness”. The more you see the notes, the more often you bring your energy back to yourself and it will remind you of where to put your focus.
Daily meditation is very helpful. The trick is to get into the habit of doing the meditations daily so that you get used to them and how it feels to be grounded and protected. Once you get into the habit of doing meditations every day, you will be able to quickly centre, ground, release, protect — literally in seconds. You will be able to picture it in your mind’s eye and ‘go to the feeling’ that you have practiced.
If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable, ask yourself “Is this me?”, if not, then do a grounding, releasing, protecting meditation.
Centering, Grounding and Protecting Your Energy
This video is one of my favourite meditations that is quick and easy. It is about 10 minutes and walks you through the process. If you could do this once a day (or 10 times a day if you need it), you will find your energy improving. Meditation Video
You do not have to watch it, you can just close your eyes and listen. It will not put you to sleep unless you are badly in need of a rest.
I have also written a book that you may find helpful The Secret of Simple Meditation.
Most of this will take a little time. It may take you a few days or weeks to get to the point where it is a ‘habit’. But in the meantime, do at least a little meditation before your party tonight and see if it helps.
Good luck, you can do it.
Love, Tamara
Thank you Tamera,
I tried that meditation link and fell asleep. Lol. I have a new baby so I really needed the sleep I suppose. I practiced at that party and I felt really good!! I was very grounded and I felt like my feelings were mostly my own. Thanksgiving will be another way for me to practice.
I have been Thinking about getting a small tattoo on my thumb to constantly remind me to protect myself.
I have also been .meaning to come see you. I will do that soon.
Thanks again for the advise Tamera.
Stephanie
You are very welcome Stephanie,
I am happy for you that your practice at the party helped. When we remember to protect ourselves we feel so much better!!
I guess it is like any exercise though, we know we should do it, we just don’t always take the time out.
That would be nice getting the tattoo, something like a small heart would be awesome, or the word love…
Have you seen or heard of Dr. Masaru Emoto, here is a link to a YouTube video you might find interesting too. It is the reason why I suggest a heart or the word love for your tattoo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAvzsjcBtx8
I will be here if you ever want to come for a reading or mentoring,
Love
Tamara