When sitting down to do this post today, I asked my husband what he thought of that title & idea for a blog post. His words to me were “I think PATIENCE causes discouragement”. I had to laugh, he and I get along really well, but we do still have different views of things. I do know where he is coming from though, so I will address this from “both sides of the coin”.
When I talk about impatience causing discouragement, what I mean is if you have your dream or your life’s work, and you expect everything and every idea that you have to take off right away, most of the time you will be disappointed. You cannot ‘get rich quick’ and you cannot get over grief overnight. If you EXPECT that you will start a new business and immediately be rich and happy, you will get discouraged. If you are grieving and expect or ‘think you should’ be able to get over your loss in a week, you will be discouraged.
In one of my readings last week, I stated to someone that small changes over time will result in a better life later. I told her that if she got impatient with the small changes and expected things to just ‘change overnight’, she would never make any small changes, and three years from now she would be in the exact same spot she was in now. No little changes, and no patience, would equal same old same old for years to come. Most people are not going to win the lottery and have their life change. Life rarely works that way. We are born to have experiences, and that’s not the experience most of us are here for. We may as well have stayed on the other side if we wanted everything to just ‘be there’ for us on a whim. We came here to live and strive ~ (at least until we have it “on earth as it is in heaven”, which is also why we came here right now, but that is another post).
The thing with impatience causing discouragement is this. If you cannot be grateful for the little positive changes, or the one good day, or the two steps forward, you will never be progressing. You will get impatient, say “forget it, it’s not working” and sabotage all of your forward movement by doing nothing. Everything needs time to grow, whether it is healing, business or finances or your ‘life’s work’.
Now I will look at what my wonderful husband had to say. “Patience causes discouragement”. I understand what he means here, but I think he misunderstands the energy of what I was saying. He thinks that ‘having patience’ means, ‘doing nothing while I wait’. It is not patience that causes discouragement, it is impatience and inaction that cause discouragement. If you do nothing and say “I am being patient and waiting for my grief to pass” or “I am being patient, I started a business, worked it for a month really hard, now I will be patient”. Yes, I guarantee that you will get discouraged if that is what patience means to you. Having patience does not mean sitting there and watching grass grow.
You can take inspired action and get off your butt and do something other than buying lottery tickets and still be patient. What would you rather have: Consistently working towards your dream or goal, watching things progress, even if just a step at a time, being patient because YOU KNOW ITS COMING so the timing doesn’t matter; OR working towards your dream, having no awareness at all of the little things to celebrate, getting impatient, getting mad, and giving up. People who do this will NEVER get what they want, EVER. They will have no staying power to keep at something. They will be constantly giving up because everything they do “takes too long”. We live on earth, most things take time here. In this case it is their impatience that has them giving up over and over again, trying new things all the time, and having every one of them fail because there was no patience.
If I told you that you were guaranteed to have $100,000 in savings and all your bills paid off by this time next year but you had to keep working really hard over the next 12 months AND you had to stay optimistic and positive and not give up, would you be patient? Would you be angry and discouraged that I was telling you it was a year away? What would you do with that?
Would you bitch and moan all year about working hard and ‘seeing no returns’.
Would you get impatient and say, “This being patient is BS, I won’t get anywhere this way”.
Or would you forget the part about working hard and keeping a good attitude and say “Oh, I’m going to be okay next year, I don’t have to do anything this year”.
With any of these attitudes you will wind up with a big fat nothing by this time next year ~ and I guarantee that you will be discouraged.
So, what do you think?
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I don’t know what I think about this post today I see what your saying but I guess I would rather work hard to get what I want but right now I don’t know what that is I guess I’m in survival mode and never really gave it much thought.