Comments on: Confused by an Abusive Relationship? https://tamarahawk.com/2011/09/27/confused-by-an-abusive-relationship/ Psychic Readings, Mentoring, and Spiritual Counselling Worldwide by Phone, E-mail or In Person Sat, 24 Oct 2015 18:30:29 +0000 hourly 1 By: What are you willing to bring into a relationship? https://tamarahawk.com/2011/09/27/confused-by-an-abusive-relationship/#comment-50426 Sat, 24 Oct 2015 18:30:29 +0000 http://www.tamarahawk.com/?p=858#comment-50426 […] If not, then what makes you think someone else can do that for you?  Would you want to get into a relationship with someone who didn’t like themselves just how they are?  Would you want to get into a relationship where the other person was a ‘project’ for you?  Someone that was so insecure in themselves that they needed constant reassurance that they were okay?  Someone who had so much baggage that they couldn’t trust you no matter what you did?  That were afraid to live their own life because they thought they needed to be someone or something else in order to attract the right partner?  Someone that once they got more comfortable turned back into themselves because they were being some… […]

]]> By: Couple More “Best Of” posts from September 2011 https://tamarahawk.com/2011/09/27/confused-by-an-abusive-relationship/#comment-48158 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 02:45:18 +0000 http://www.tamarahawk.com/?p=858#comment-48158 […] Confused by an Abusive Relationship? […]

]]> By: Tamara Hawk https://tamarahawk.com/2011/09/27/confused-by-an-abusive-relationship/#comment-103 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 14:17:32 +0000 http://www.tamarahawk.com/?p=858#comment-103 In reply to Doug.

Hi Doug,
I agree, it is not gender specific. At the time I wrote this post I had recently had many female clients in this position and being a female myself, I wrote it from a woman’s perspective.
I hope you are, or were, able to extract yourself from your situation and begin your healing.
Thank you for sharing a different perspective with us.
Love
Tamara

]]> By: Doug https://tamarahawk.com/2011/09/27/confused-by-an-abusive-relationship/#comment-102 Tue, 10 Apr 2012 01:16:21 +0000 http://www.tamarahawk.com/?p=858#comment-102 This was a good piece of reading. I can see where the points were made and where they came from. For me, I will never chastise others for thier opinions. That said, back in 2003 we had a complete role reversal in our world, he, me, is the stay at home male and she works. I cannot say to much about how this particular topic stands up to what has happened around our home. I can say that the power, in the right hands, is not gender spasific. I know bones and bruises heal in time but mental anguish lingers on- and if I might add is the determining factor in just how long the relationship will last. If we hang around long enough we get to say good bye to an a** on his or hers deathbed. What kind of a future is that?

]]> By: Drea https://tamarahawk.com/2011/09/27/confused-by-an-abusive-relationship/#comment-101 Tue, 27 Sep 2011 21:58:19 +0000 http://www.tamarahawk.com/?p=858#comment-101 Great post!

I’m sure there will be women that recognize some or all of these points you made. Hopefully it will bring some awareness to their situations and they will be able to find courage to make the changes needed!

🙂

]]> By: Tamara Hawk https://tamarahawk.com/2011/09/27/confused-by-an-abusive-relationship/#comment-100 Tue, 27 Sep 2011 20:22:38 +0000 http://www.tamarahawk.com/?p=858#comment-100 In reply to Jo Lester.

Nice to hear from you Jo, hope you are doing well.
I agree, it can apply pretty much anywhere, ah, if only letting go of these things could be easier…..
love Tamara

]]> By: Jo Lester https://tamarahawk.com/2011/09/27/confused-by-an-abusive-relationship/#comment-99 Tue, 27 Sep 2011 19:24:22 +0000 http://www.tamarahawk.com/?p=858#comment-99 I love the phrase:

“you are confused and stuck in ‘what was’ rather than ‘what is’”. This can be applied to any part of our life that we “want back” don’t you think?

Thank you for this blog. Truth with clarity . . .

jo

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