I’m sure its going to take a while to settle down from the explotation element which caused an emotional stir, but obviously these are feelings that must be experienced as they are very immature for what its worth.

I think that all chakras are going to need nurturing amd developing big time as this is all new to me.

Thank you for the information, I will give the meditation a good try again, as I do believe it is the key, and will let you know how it goes.

Hi there G,
If you tried meditation and it worked then that may be your key. Think about why you did not make a habit of it? When we truly decide that we want something, changing habits is easier.

When it comes to relationships and opening your heart, you may have some fear ~ whether it is a fear of being open, or a fear of being hurt, or fear of changing things from the way they are. Or … you may not truly believe it is possible to make changes.

The very first step with anything is DECIDING. Many people, say things like “maybe one day”, or “I think I might do this”, or some other wishy washy statement about what they might want. There is no clear decision to actually DO IT though. This is what stops so many. If you make a clear decision that you are going to do something (like open up your heart chakra), then that is where your energy and focus will go. You will find that you DO get disciplined about meditation because you decided that you were going to do it.

Just like with any other habit. Smoking… “think I might quit smoking” … you won’t ever quit if you don’t ever decide to do it. Or an exercise program, “maybe I will start to exercise more” … NOBODY on the planet will actually DO it unless and until they DECIDE to do it.

If there are fear programs running in your energy and you are afraid of opening up, there may be a part of you that thinks it would be nice, but the fear and old habits win out. If this is the case, it might do you well to just pray (or affirm), “Help me to be willing to change and to open my heart chakra”. You need to be willing to change before you can make a decision to change.

This is a bit of a ‘generic’ response and I hope it makes sense and that you find it helpful.
If you wanted to book a reading, I could certainly look closer at your personal energy and situation and probably help you through whatever is blocking you.

While my friends always seem to meet someone special, I’m always the one that never does, it just doesn’t happen, it drives me crazy. It’s definately by design, and not by chance or lack of going out and being unsocial.

The only conclusion I can come up with it that I have a closed heart, probably from my childhood, where I grew up in a family that showed very little love as my father had a short temper and was always angry.

I feel I will only meet someone once I open my heart. I did meditation for a while on and off, and the difference was amazing, and I felt that things were immediately better and I was more open to the world, but I was never disciplined enough to make a habit of it.

Does this make sense, can you give any advice on this?

Hi Lina,
Without doing a personal reading for you I cannot say for sure what your own situation is.
However, it is usually best to ‘walk away’ from people who are already in a relationship, as they are not available to you.
You may want to ask yourself if there is a draw for you to ‘unavailable’ people (for whatever reason). You can also look at what you received (as in ‘life lessons’ from each of these three), are there similarities?
You may also want to look at the feelings you had while involved to get your answers. Sometimes as creators we re-create the same scenarios and feelings in our lives over and over.
As I said though, without a personal reading and connecting with your energy, it is hard to say the EXACT cause. Meditation and ‘going within’, may give you the answers you need though.
Love Tamara

I am currently in that state once again with a friend who is already in a relationship and raising a child. Do I just acknowledge that my heart chakra is “warm and fuzzy” and walk away? Because we both can’t seem to keep our feelings on a purely platonic level and have not acted on them either. I of course also don’t want to be anyone’s reason for breaking up a family. So what could be the purpose in this complicated situation?