This is probably one of the most common questions I get.  You meet someone and feel a really huge connection.  It’s as if you have known them your whole life.  It feels so comfortable to be around them, you talk for hours, being in their presence feels like ‘coming home’.  There is a sexual attraction too.  You just love the way they look, how you feel when you are around them.  You really think that they are ‘the one’.

Then a short time later, usually it is only weeks or maybe about 3 months max., all of a sudden this person, the person you thought was your Soul Mate, that you felt so comfortable around, starts to change.  They start to take off and pull back from you.  Your relationship may be off and on for quite some time.

They start to accuse you of being controlling.  When you ask them “What happened, I thought you loved me?”  The response you get is usually similar to “Well, this is the real me, get used to it”.

What happened here?  Why can I not let this person go?  I feel as if I am obsessed with them, I cannot stop thinking about them.  I have never felt like this before.

If you find yourself in this situation, there is an explanation.  And here it is:

As Souls we live in many dimensions.  In our lifetime we come across many people (Souls) that we knew before.  Whether in a past life, or just from our existence in another dimension.  Chances are, if you are reading this, you are aware of “the other side”, and know that there is more to our existence here than just this 3D reality.

You are remembering a connection with this person from another dimension.  It does not exist for them in this dimension.  They initially feel the same connection of ‘coming home’ that you felt, but that is not what they are wanting or able to experience in this moment.

On a Soul level, you may have agreed to meet up on Earth at this time so that you could remind him/her of something that he/she does not want to remember right now.  You hold a space for them to remember, and be who you know they are on a Soul Level, but that is not what they are wanting at this point of their journey.

They are vibrating on a completely different frequency than you are.  This is their choice.  You cannot chose it for them.  They are a Soul having a human experience and they are chosing a different experience than you are.  You see their potential, but they don’t.

Just as you have had opportunities for spiritual growth in your life that you were not ready for, they are not ready for the growth and the space that you are offering.

This does not mean that you have failed, or that they have failed, it just means that at this point, in this dimension, you are in different places.  It is important to realize that just because you are connected to someone in a different dimension, it does not mean that you “MUST” be together in this one.

Once you realize what you truly are to each other it can be easier to let go.  You stop questioning what you did wrong.  You stop asking what you can do to make things better.  There is nothing you can do about anyone else’s path or choices.

On a soul level it may feel as if they are breaking a contract with you that you made a long time ago.  It is their path and their journey and their lessons that they are living and learning in their own way, at their own pace, and you cannot do it for them.

You need to release the need to ‘show them who they are’ on a soul level, and move on so that you can attract someone into your life that is vibrating at the same level as you are and that you can grow with more comfortably.

I’m hoping that this explanation will help bring you peace and enable you to release these energy cords more quickly and less painfully.  You do not need to try to keep up your end of the ‘contract’, when they are not able to live up to theirs.

I have had relationships in my life like this too.  I know it can be hard to let them go when you know how beautiful and loving their true soul is.  However, I also know how liberating it can be to realize that they are not where I am, and if we are meant to meet again on the other side we will.  All you can do for anyone is offer them love, and then let them be.  You cannot force love (and light), onto someone who is not ready for it.