Energetic & Spiritual Boundaries

I have been attending the Hay House, I CAN DO IT!  2014 conference in Vancouver all weekend.

Today I will be going to Vancouver again for a class with Doreen Virtue for Angel Card Reading.

Over the weekend I have met a few energy workers like myself.  Of course over my career I have met many people who are energy workers, or mediums, or empaths.  One thing I have noticed is how many people that can see and feel what I see and feel, think they have no control over it at all.

You have more control over your energetic space than you think you do.  Just because you have a ‘gift’ doesn’t mean you have to live your life being open all the time.  Just because you have been bombarded with energies, doesn’t mean you have to live your life being blown about by the energy and moods of everyone and everything around you.

Spirits and loved ones on the other side are not that different than we are.  They were (and kind of are) people just like we are.  You CAN and SHOULD have boundaries with them.

If you are walking down the street and someone (not in spirit) started to follow you down the street and talking to you and saying your name what would you do?

If you chose to ignore them completely chances are they would think that you did not hear them and they would continue to follow you, call your name and pester you until you acknowledged them.  If you stopped, turned around, acknowledged them and said something like “Yes?”; or ” I’m sorry, but I do not know who you are”; or (in the case of someone panhandling for money), “I do not have any change”.  They would go away and move on.   If they did not move on, you may begin to get nervous but you would likely ignore them, walk away, tell them firmly, maybe with your hand up, “Stop”, or “go away”.  Maybe get mall security or something, but they would go and leave you alone.

Spirits are not much different.  Many mediums don’t have a clue how to have boundaries with Sprits.  When I go out to a mall or event, I mostly “tune out” the Spiritual clutter.  If I didn’t I’d go nuts.  There were a lot of people there yesterday, and if I hadn’t been ‘tuned out’ I am sure I would have been surrounded by voices of people that could not be seen.  In a crowd of over 3000 people, what the heck would I have done with all the voices?

If I have a medium reading booked and I am getting ready in the morning, and someone pops in and says “Hi, I’m the Dad”, that is perfectly okay.  He is here for my client, is excited to talk to her, and has just shown up a bit early (sometimes they come the night before, or a few days before), this is okay.

If I am lying in bed and night, and someone pops in.  I might ask them who they are.  Or, if I am ready to go to sleep I will just let them know “I am going to sleep now, just come back when your person is sitting in front of me and we can talk”.  Easy.  Boundaries.

When I lived in the city I had a Spirit come in when I was on my way to bed and he was younger (early 20’s), and VERY EXCITED.  He was bouncing around my room and saying, “I’m so glad we met” and “can’t wait to talk to him” etc.  He came into my room a few nights in a row.

I was pretty sure I knew who he wanted to talk to (a friend of mine), so I approached my friend and told him about this Spirit that was excited to talk to him.  I told him many things about the Spirit and he said “I don’t know who or what you are talking about”.  I was rather floored because the Spirit was pretty clear with me.

However, there is not much I can do about it.  Whether my friend was just freaked out (he wasn’t really ‘into’ this stuff), or whether I or the Spirit really were mixed up is really irrelevant.  Bottom line, I couldn’t help the guy that kept coming into my room and jumping on my bed.

So, after talking to my friend, I went to bed and I told the Spirit “I am sorry, I don’t think I can help you right now.  If you want to come back when your person is sitting in front of me, I would be happy to talk for you”.  And you know what.  He left!!!

Really freaking easy.  There are many mediums out there that don’t realize that it is okay to have boundaries.

Just because you have a ‘gift’ and can see and talk to Spirits, it does not mean you are obligated to have them harass you all the time.  Yes, its a gift.  Yes, it would be nice if you could share information.  NO, you are NOT obligated to give up your entire life, to have Spirits attached to you and be bashed around by energies that are not your own.

Just as with people who have bodies, yes you can help WHEN YOU CAN HELP, but you are not ‘obligated’ to allow yourself to be treated like a doormat.

Have some energetic boundaries, just as you (hopefully), have some physical boundaries in your life.

I hope to write more on this subject, but for now, I am off to Vancouver!