You cannot flourish and do what you came here to do if you are too busy living someone else’s life for them. I often write about how you can empower yourself, but I cannot MAKE changes for you, nor can I make your life better. Only you can do that.

You need to realize that you cannot make changes for others, nor is it your job to make changes for them. It is up to them to do that for themselves.

Are you ready to live your own life? Or are you focusing so much on other people that your life is just put on the back burner again? What a great excuse to not step up to the plate and do what you came here to do. “But I have to do this for someone else first”. That is a bunch of hooey. Doing things for other people while doing nothing for yourself does not serve you, or them, or our planet.

If our planet was full of happy, abundant, successful people it would be a much better place. Keeping yourself unhappy, broke, and floundering is not helping anybody.

Have you brought “helping others” to a point where you are just enabling bad behavior in them? Is it an excuse so that you do not need to shine your light on YOU. Are you focusing on others because it is easier to ‘worry’ about them, and take care of them, than it is to step forward in your own life?

It is time to think about yourself. You cannot help others if you do not help yourself first. I am not saying to ‘do harm’ to other people, but it is time to get rid of your distorted view about how much help you are providing. Enabling is not helping. When you try and live someone else’s life for them, you are essentially saying that you do not trust the divine source within them to flourish and for them to take care of themselves. It is not fair to them for you to take away their own life choices.

There is a fairly large split on our planet right now. Those of you who ‘get it’, and those people who don’t. If you are reading this with an open mind, I guarantee that you are one of the people that ‘gets it’; even if you don’t totally understand everything and how energy works, you still get it on a soul level. I cannot make someone else understand this if they do not want to ~ you cannot make someone understand if they are not open to it. Some people have closed minds and closed hearts, and in this lifetime, on the earth in this moment, they will never get it.

Sometimes you just need to walk away from people who are draining your energy. Family members who are always asking for money (adult children included), friends who only call you to bitch about their problems, people in your life who are in lousy relationships and call to tell you about it all the time while not doing anything to change, ditto for lousy jobs, or unemployment.

These interactions do nothing to or for you except to lower your vibration and dim your light, whether slightly or a lot. IT IS NOT HELPING them or you. No matter how often you listen, counsel, or talk, they won’t get it until they get it. AND SOME OF THEM NEVER WILL AND IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO MAKE THEM.

It is time to let go. Let go of all the things, thoughts and people that are holding you back from your life purpose. Move on. Take steps to make your life better. To feel better. To BE better. Once you do this, then you will be surrounded by wonderful light beings in physical form (all of you reading this already have many light beings around you in ethereal form). As you get together with these people there will be strength in numbers. You will find that two of you, or a group of you, or a tribe of you WILL be able to have an impact on our world. Your light will get stronger and stronger and stronger. The lighter our planet, the better off everyone will be ~ including the people you may be trying to ‘help’ now.

Many that cannot hold the light, or do not want to hold the light and positive energy that is available will stay stuck ~ but just in this lifetime. Do not worry about them, they WILL make it home, and their Soul will be okay. It can be hard to watch them suffer, but you cannot know what it is their soul wants.

If someone comes to you for help, it is okay to help. IF they are also taking some personal responsibility for where they are and IF they are actually willing to change and help themselves. No amount of you ‘doing for them’ will help them out of a rut if they are not willing to get out of it themselves.

This is what I do. This is part of my life purpose. I share, I help those of you that come to me authentically wanting help. I cannot help you if you take no responsibility for your own life ~ it is an impossible task. I can share information that might change your life for the better if you are willing ready and able to run with it. If someone comes to me and asks me to change their life for them, and they do not want to make any adjustments to what they are doing, either physically or energetically, I cannot help them.

It is time for you to do the same with the people in your life. Put the spotlight on yourself. See what you need for you and give it to yourself. THIS is what will make the world a better place for everyone.

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