Hi Mom,

Happy Mother’s Day,  I hope you see this, I’m sure you will, I know you are one of my biggest fans.

Thank you so much for teaching me to accept people for who they are and not to judge others.  Thank you for teaching me to accept myself just how I am and for letting me know all these years that its okay to not be “Normal”.  Without you, I would not be the woman I am, and I love and appreciate you more than words can say.

For all of you that read my blog:

On this Mother’s Day I want to share my favourite “Mom-isms” that I got from my mom.  These are things that she said to me repeatedly over the years that helped shape me into the person I am today.  At certain times I hear her voice in my subconscious mind saying these things to me.

I hope you get as much from them as I still do.

Whenever I would get all pouty and start with a “woe is me” attitude she would remind me:

“Life isn’t fair”.  She never put a negative spin on this, it was just a gentle reminder that sometimes things happened and it was best to just move along to the next thing.

Whenever I got scared or nervous about speaking in public, or putting myself out there in a bigger way she would say:

What are they going to do, throw tomatoes at you?

Or if I was nervous about anything, a test, meeting new people, doing something I hadn’t done before:

It will be over and done with by this time tomorrow (or in 3 hours or whatever time frame)

When I was younger and would occasionally get into ‘drama mode’ about something that might happen:

In 100 years from now who is going to care? (will it matter)

This is still one of my favourites to this day, really helps to keep things in perspective:

Only the end of the world is the end of the world

This one is pretty self-explanatory, I heard this one a lot when I was a teenager and kept doing the same stupid things over and over again:

If you were sorry you wouldn’t have done it

This was another ‘biggie’ for me throughout my life.  It kept me from chasing after people that really didn’t want to be in my life, and I am sure it saved me months or even years of misery.

Never pursue a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to be with you

I find myself saying these words to others too, especially my son.  I am grateful for my mom and all she taught me over the years.  I am grateful that these are some of the subconscious programs I have running from my childhood.

And my two very favourites that I always find myself saying to myself….

Everything will work out, it always does…

And

Treat others as you want to be treated

Hoping you find some inspiration in these words today, just as I get inspiration from my mom.  Happy Mother’s Day.

Love

Tamara