We are creators and we are attractors.  The Law of Attraction is real.  What we think about and focus on is what we create.  These are FACTS.

So what do I mean when I ask you if your hopes and dreams are congruent?  Is what you intend to happen really going to happen?

I have a few examples that I would like to give you, and you can decide for yourself if what you think you want is actually what you working towards, or if you are blocking yourself with actions or belief systems that will get you exactly what you don’t want.

Special Relationships, with Spouse or BF/GF

So, you want a good relationship.  One where you have someone who is respectable like you are.  Has similar values, even if they like different activities than you.  Someone who you can talk to, that respects you and that has as much love to give you as you have to give them.

At the moment you are trying to ‘manifest’ that your current relationship improve.  You live with a drug addict, but just know that if you treat them right and you keep working on ‘manifesting’ the perfect relationship, they will get help and stop using.

You cannot change or ‘manifest’ for other people.  What is likely to happen in this situation is that your current relationship will get worse and worse until one of you can’t take it anymore and the relationship ends.

This will free you up to have the type of relationship that you were imagining (see the first paragraph of this section).

If you pine over the lost relationship you are essentially blocking anything new coming in.  If you do not allow yourself to heal from the lost relationship, you are blocking anything new.

The harder you try to hang onto the current (unhappy) relationship, the less congruent your thoughts and actions are and the longer it will take to finally manifest the relationship of your dreams.

Money

So you would like to ‘manifest’ having your debt paid off and having money in the bank.  Seems doable enough, just work hard.

Yes, that can work and often does.  But your actions need to be congruent with what you want.  If you keep spending money on ‘wants’ you will most likely never get your debt paid off.  Especially if it is credit card debt.  If you have credit card debt, pretty much every single penny you spend is spent on credit.  Every penny!

So, when you go out shopping, or start to focus on things you want and then spend money on them, your thoughts are not congruent with paying off your debt.

This isn’t to say that you NEVER spend anything ever on a want.  It means to be AWARE that if you spend that $5 on coffee, or that $100 on an outing, it is ADDING TO YOUR DEBT.  Anything that keeps you paying interest on a credit card, and not paying off the balance of what you owe, is the opposite of what you say you want to manifest.

It is not ‘what you want’ that isn’t manifesting here.  It is that your actions are different than what you say you want.

Work

There are a couple of different scenarios here depending on whether you are working for someone else, or self employed so I will cover them both.

You are working for someone and you hate your job or want more money.  Or you really want to move up or do more, use more skills, but haven’t been able to.  You keep thinking about it, every day, but you don’t seem to ever make the time to look for more or apply for something else.  You just keep imagining what it would be like to be doing something else.  You are hoping for a head-hunter to find you or for the “job-fairy” to tap you with his magic wand and put you into your dream job.

Then you lose your job.  You think you have been trying to manifest a better job and suddenly you don’t even have one!  WTH!  Well, you manifested that.  Now you have to go out and look for a different job.  What you make of the situation will be up to you.

At this point many people will just feel sorry for themselves, feel desperate and only look at the same type of job they just left.  It is okay to take a job at this point to take care of your immediate needs, IF you ALSO (at the same time) apply for the type of job you would really want to do ~ your dream job.

You will fare much better if you just take responsibility for your creation, realize you must be a pretty powerful manifester to have done that for yourself, and keep focusing on the type of job you want.  Apply for the types of job you want.  You have already proven you can manifest in a big way, ride that wave and apply for jobs out of your comfort zone.

Self Employed

Okay, so you are self employed and are doing ‘okay’.  There are a couple of scenarios here.

1.  You start to feel successful and you are pretty busy so you STOP doing all the things that got you to that point.  Advertising, visualizing, schmoozing, talking to people; the list goes on ~ just think of what you did to get busy.

Then you stop it.  Work gets slower and slower and you wonder why.  It is because you STOPPED doing all the things that made you a success to begin with!  You ‘manifested’ your success with your actions, now you’ve stopped your actions, what do you expect to ‘manifest’ next?

2.  You get tired of what you are doing and decide that maybe you want to do something new.  You put all of your focus on being done with what you were doing and work slows down immediately and just to your liking.  You think, “Hey, I’m a powerful manifester and my work dried up, I don’t have to do that crap anymore unless I feel like it”.

Then you run out of money and realize that maybe you need to keep doing what you were doing before and come up with an exit strategy for your business instead.

Its not that you hated your job, you just needed a break.  Most of your clients were nice, and the cheques when they came were pretty awesome after all.

You have proven to yourself that you are a great manifester and you know that 90% of manifesting is your thoughts, feelings and attitude, so even though you are kind of broke you start reading inspiring books (or even my blog) to learn how to manifest even better.  You know you can do it, if you just focus and feel good, your phone will start ringing again.  You have your client base and some work will come.

Here’s the thing with that;  your ACTIONS are not congruent with what you want.  When you first started your business, you did all kinds of things to build it (see #1 above).  If you are not DOING, something, then nothing can happen for you.  Visualizing and ‘trying to manifest’ won’t work if you are not taking inspired action.

So, are your actions congruent with what you want?  Take a good look at what you want and then take a good look at your life.  If they don’t match up then it may be time to take a really close look at what you are doing or not doing.  Are you making conscious decisions or are you just ‘hoping’ that things will be better one day if you think about it long enough.

If you would like some help with moving in any direction in your life a psychic reading can help.  You can contact me here.

If you want to hear what others have said about their readings you can check that out on my Psychic Reading Testimonial/Review page.

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