Over the past few months I have written a lot of posts about letting go. A lot of them were directly related to relationships that have outgrown their purpose.
There is one more that I have written that will be included in this post. I think it will be the last one of its kind (for now anyway). When I wrote the first one, I didn’t realize that it would end up being a series on different types of relationships that no longer serve our highest and best good. I write what I am inspired to write on any given day. My inspiration comes from more than one source. The majority of the time it is from my own personal teams of guides teachers and angels. Sometimes when I have had many clients in a short span of time that all have the same issues related to relationships, I realize that I need to put something out there so that those of you who are not able to get a reading can still benefit from what many people’s guides (including my own) are telling me about the times we are in.
As mentioned in my last post, not all these posts relate to all relationships. There are a great many of you that are living in very positive “twin flame” relationships where you are both able to live your lives filled with love and growth.
I am hoping to be able to channel a post or posts in the future that will better serve those of you who are already in your mutually supportive relationships. Even in very good relationships there are energy and communication exercises that you can do to make things even better.
But that is a future post. For now, here is the post about relationships that are very ‘different’ ~ but still need to be released.
With love,
Tamara
A Special Relationship that Serves to Open Your Heart Chakra
A lot of times when I do readings for people and they are asking about a relationship, they will tell me “I’ve never felt like this before, we must be soul mates”. Usually during these readings, the person that you are focusing on is no longer in your life and you are not letting them go. I am totally convinced that you will be able to find a psychic that will tell you, yes, you have had past lives together, and you are soul mates and that they will come back to you. The world is full of “psychics” that will tell you just what you want to hear.
A lot of the time when I say that you need to let the person go, you will say… “I just can’t, we must be meant to be together, I’VE NEVER FELT LIKE THIS BEFORE”. I am here to tell you that just because you feel a strong connection with someone does not mean that you must be soul mates or that you are meant to be together.
There are many reasons that we feel strong connections with others. It doesn’t always mean that they need to be a romantic partner in this lifetime.
The most common reason for these feelings is that the person that you are obsessed with has helped you to open up your heart chakra. I could count on one hand the number of readings I’ve done when matchings like this are meant to be and I’ve done a LOT of readings. If you are meant to be, chances are you are together and happy and are not calling me to ask why he or she has walked out of your life.
When your heart chakra opens up it can be a feeling like no other. Its amazing. It is warm and fuzzy, and something that most of us aren’t accustomed to once our childhood has ended.
In cases like this you simply need to realize that you likely DO know this person from the other side. You might meet up with them again after you both cross back over and go home. However, chances are, you had an agreement before you came here. The object of your affection agreed to come into your life for a while and be a wonderful part of your life and to help you open up your heart chakra. Once your heart chakra has been opened you can more freely allow someone in to share your life.
It is usually no more than that. Once they have assisted you in opening your heart chakra, their job in your life is done. It’s a wonderful gift they have given you. It doesn’t mean that you are meant to be with them romantically in this lifetime.
Most of you say things like “I am confused as to whether or not he/she likes me. When I call or email them, they are really nice and open but I don’t get a lot of indication that they want more”. They are nice and open because they are ’nice’ people, they probably do like you and don’t want to hurt you. Its usually ‘nice’ people that can assist you with your heart chakra. They aren’t usually the type of person that is going to hang up on you or ignore your emails. (although sometimes they do when you get too pushy). They know that it wouldn’t work for the two of you. Most of the time they do care for you on some level… they just don’t want to ‘be with you’, or they would be.
Take the gift of an open heart, receive it with grattitude, and find someone else with an open heart to share your life with.
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I was drawn to the first line of your Post, “letting go”. I have several such messages recently about that subject. I have even mentioned it in a couple of recent Posts. I also appreciate your addressing the Heart Chakra. I know many, myself included, have blocked or partially blocked Heart Chakras. Then the lower three centers are cut off from the upper three leading to all sorts of issues. I would gladly take the gift of an open heart, but unfortunately it has to start with me. I am subscribing to your newsletter and hope that includes notification of new Blogs. So greetings from one Hawk to another. That is how I found you, by looking to see where Google was ranking my Blog and site. Glad I stumbled by.
Nice to meet you Hawk. Sometimes my newsletter comes out with references to blog posts, but I don’t send one out every time I post. The best way to see the posts as I do them is to subcribe to my facebook page http://www.facebook.com/pages/Psychic-Medium-Tamara-Hawk/119921061374535
As for the Heart Chakra, once its open, there is no better feeling… warm and fuzzy, just like Christmas. I write a lot about ‘feeling the love’ in my posts, there’s a video in my blog that I posted called “I Chose Love” by Shawn Galloway that is really inspiring – give it a listen, it might help inspire you.
Thanks for posting, I’ll check out your blog too!
I have felt this too and since then have experienced strong connections with two others. All were short lived but strong connections. Once I realized the purpose I was able to move on. But how many more times before I meet Ms. Right? These experiences with the heart are just as wonderful as they can be painful.
I am currently in that state once again with a friend who is already in a relationship and raising a child. Do I just acknowledge that my heart chakra is “warm and fuzzy” and walk away? Because we both can’t seem to keep our feelings on a purely platonic level and have not acted on them either. I of course also don’t want to be anyone’s reason for breaking up a family. So what could be the purpose in this complicated situation?
Hi Lina,
Without doing a personal reading for you I cannot say for sure what your own situation is.
However, it is usually best to ‘walk away’ from people who are already in a relationship, as they are not available to you.
You may want to ask yourself if there is a draw for you to ‘unavailable’ people (for whatever reason). You can also look at what you received (as in ‘life lessons’ from each of these three), are there similarities?
You may also want to look at the feelings you had while involved to get your answers. Sometimes as creators we re-create the same scenarios and feelings in our lives over and over.
As I said though, without a personal reading and connecting with your energy, it is hard to say the EXACT cause. Meditation and ‘going within’, may give you the answers you need though.
Love Tamara
I’m 37 years of age and have only been in one serious relationship that lasted a year, most of my life I have been alone. I’ve always had a few good close friends, and I’m tall and fairly attractive, but for some reason it seems the universe has constantly ‘prevented’ me from meeting that right person, or from being in more relationships.
While my friends always seem to meet someone special, I’m always the one that never does, it just doesn’t happen, it drives me crazy. It’s definately by design, and not by chance or lack of going out and being unsocial.
The only conclusion I can come up with it that I have a closed heart, probably from my childhood, where I grew up in a family that showed very little love as my father had a short temper and was always angry.
I feel I will only meet someone once I open my heart. I did meditation for a while on and off, and the difference was amazing, and I felt that things were immediately better and I was more open to the world, but I was never disciplined enough to make a habit of it.
Does this make sense, can you give any advice on this?
Hi there G,
If you tried meditation and it worked then that may be your key. Think about why you did not make a habit of it? When we truly decide that we want something, changing habits is easier.
When it comes to relationships and opening your heart, you may have some fear ~ whether it is a fear of being open, or a fear of being hurt, or fear of changing things from the way they are. Or … you may not truly believe it is possible to make changes.
The very first step with anything is DECIDING. Many people, say things like “maybe one day”, or “I think I might do this”, or some other wishy washy statement about what they might want. There is no clear decision to actually DO IT though. This is what stops so many. If you make a clear decision that you are going to do something (like open up your heart chakra), then that is where your energy and focus will go. You will find that you DO get disciplined about meditation because you decided that you were going to do it.
Just like with any other habit. Smoking… “think I might quit smoking” … you won’t ever quit if you don’t ever decide to do it. Or an exercise program, “maybe I will start to exercise more” … NOBODY on the planet will actually DO it unless and until they DECIDE to do it.
If there are fear programs running in your energy and you are afraid of opening up, there may be a part of you that thinks it would be nice, but the fear and old habits win out. If this is the case, it might do you well to just pray (or affirm), “Help me to be willing to change and to open my heart chakra”. You need to be willing to change before you can make a decision to change.
This is a bit of a ‘generic’ response and I hope it makes sense and that you find it helpful.
If you wanted to book a reading, I could certainly look closer at your personal energy and situation and probably help you through whatever is blocking you.
Thank you for the information, I will give the meditation a good try again, as I do believe it is the key, and will let you know how it goes.
Have to try this meditation , when I got some time. Thx
The problem is, someone opened my heart chakra where it must have been closed, but what also happened was all the trauma from my childhood became drawn to the service, so it’s not just about letting go of a situation which has opened me up, but all the feelings of vulnerability that I repressed for so long.
I’m sure its going to take a while to settle down from the explotation element which caused an emotional stir, but obviously these are feelings that must be experienced as they are very immature for what its worth.
I think that all chakras are going to need nurturing amd developing big time as this is all new to me.
I think this is easier said than done. I have noticed a pattern with me. For some odd reason the only time I’ve had my heart chakra opened has been by Hispanic men who never stay in my life. I realize that most lessons I learn about love come from them. It makes me not want to date any of them because I end up living them more. It’s always met with an initial resistance. The last guy I talked to I told him he was too Immature for me and it turned out to be true. I will say that prior to meeting him I didn’t have any feelings in my heart or a desire to connect with anyone. I just wanted to be free of the burden I had put myself through in my previous relationship. However when I met him I litterally felt my heart connect to his and to make matters worse he said he felt that connection himself. He validated everything I was saying, even stated what I was thinking too. However he still disappeared. I don’t understand how someone can see and understand the truth about what they feel and still reject it. Ironically prior to him I’d promised myself years ago I would not be involved with another Hispanic man. Although they are complimentary to me they seem to think love has to be painful and suffering and not good. I feel like I expose them to s gentle real love and it scares them off. I end up being left. I think if my initial reaction to someone is no I’m just going to leave it alone and let them understand that in not interested because I usually connect with them on a heart level but our lifestyles are so different.
Everything you describe in this post is spot on. The guy I met was clearly a meeting that was planned by the universe. A plan the universe was not gonna stop at any measures to make happen. He was the very first person I have ever met that I felt a connection with.
And I read with heart Charka connections they feel like soul mates and allot are. You can feel there emotions an share simular life experiences an be on total wave length vibration an energy wise . Be totally into the same things N have simular backgrounds. Even share thoughts N ideas in there presence N absence. Similar to a twin flame as well but not at all the same….
The one I met was of all I described above. But his purpose was clearly not to be with me. Because after we met he disappeared. An because I’m the spiritually awoken one I feel my heart charka ache at random moments. Like when I’m mostly at rest, been surrounded by love an joy an happiness…. I read it will be the connection we both have together… And it bothers me because I don’t no if this is a forever connection from a distance or will it end when I’ve meet my. Life partner…. How can I give a man all my love an heart when my hearts connected to another