I’m over 30, I’m worried I will never have kids

I have a lot of clients that are worried about whether or not they will be able to have kids.  The majority of my female clients that are 40+ have pretty much given up on ever having a baby.

I have clients that are single and are in their 30’s and they are freaking out about finding someone, and quick, because they want to start a family and they have been (falsely) told that it is much harder to get pregnant after 30, and it just gets worse/harder as time goes on.  They are told that by 40 they have very little chance of getting pregnant.

That is a bunch of bunk.  Firstly I want to say, that if you truly believe you can’t get pregnant, or that it will be difficult to get pregnant after 33 or so, you will find that to be the case.  You get what you believe.  100% of the time.

Our minds are very powerful.  Our thoughts create our reality.  I am not saying that you don’t need to take care of yourself, or support your body through life, but your beliefs around how hard it will be (or if it is even possible) will have an impact on you.

I have some clients that don’t even believe me when I tell them that they will meet their partner in their late thirties and have 2 or 3 kids after that.  They simply cannot get their minds around it because they have been brainwashed by very old information (see below).

Not everyone can give birth (or impregnate a woman).  I get that.  I also know that there are spontaneous healings, healings over time etc., but the majority of the population doesn’t have the belief that they can do it.  They don’t have the motivation to change their life or habits, or beliefs to the point that it would take in order to heal.

There are also some humans on the planet that are simply not meant to have kids via “regular” means.  This does not mean you cannot try IVF or adopt.  I have had clients where the information I got for them was that IVF would be a waste of money, I have had clients where I have got that adoption would be the best option.  I have had clients where I said “I don’t know, getting nothing”.  (I don’t always get clear cut answers).

Thing is, that our futures are not set in stone either.  Sometimes just the act of going through an adoption process frees up your energy enough in a positive way, you stop thinking about getting pregnant and focusing on your inability to get pregnant.  You start focusing on having a baby (no matter how), and get pregnant.

Some Facts and Studies about Pregnancy

The statistics that are usually cited about fertility in women in their 30’s is based on hospital records from France in the 1700-1800’s.  Say what!  Thinking we have come a long way in the past 200-300 years.

In 1982 there were 6,519 live births in England and Wales to women aged 40 or more, about 1% of all babies born that year, Office of National Statistics data shows. By 2012 the figure had risen to 29,994, or 4.1% of all live births. (compliments of Google)

According to the Daily Mail in the UK (which is comparable to the New York Post in the US).  In 2000 the number of babies born to mothers over 50 was 44, in 2008 it was 69, and in 2012 it was 154.  I am not suggesting you wait this long, as there are very few of you that would be able to keep your body in optimal health to facilitate a healthy pregnancy and birth (think pesticides, GMO’s, pollutants, lifestyle etc.).

I will say again, not everyone is meant to give birth in this lifetime, I just wanted to help dispel some of the misinformation that is circulating and keeping women (and men) from empowering themselves to create the life they want (because yes, sometimes it is possible to change an outcome with your beliefs).

I also want to say again.  That if you want to have a healthy pregnancy you need to keep your own body healthy ~ no matter what your age.

Not sure why this was the subject of my blog post today.  One of you needs to hear this.  I just sit at my PC and let it flow through me.  Hoping it helps.

Love

Tamara  

I am NOT a doctor.  This is NOT a medical blog.  The opinions I express are just that “my opinions”.  If you are under a doctors care or on a course of treatment, do not stop just because of something I say.  I take no responsibility for your actions.